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Or get in touch with a good friend? Noticing that you are ruminating and redirecting your focus retrains your mind to loosen up and not get pulled into a vortex of your thoughts.

Snap out of it. Place a rubber band around your wrist. When you notice yourself ruminating, snap the rubber band and refocus on something else. Get into a comfortable position and follow these breathing instructions. Breathe in for a count of four, hold for a count of four, and breathe out for a count of four. Repeat this for at least five minutes. Breathing replenishes the body and gives the mind something else to focus on.

Pull Over: This method came from Therese J. Borchard who wrote an online guide to overcoming obsessions. Imagine you are driving a car. There are thousands of forms of OCD, as unique as each individual. They are not limited to the ones you see on TV with themes of checking, germaphobic cleaning, ordering, perfectionism, hoarding, and hypochondriasis, etc.

OCD can even take a nonsense form, with unanswerable metaphysical questions, a song that sticks in your mind, thinking about one's swallowing or blinking, etc. Common obsessions include fears about contamination, worries about having left appliances on or doors unlocked, fear of acting in shameful or humiliating ways, discomfort about things being out of order, extreme concerns about superstitions such as unlucky numbers or colors, and excessive worries about keeping objects of all kinds.

Common compulsions include excessive cleaning and hand washing; repeatedly checking doors, locks, appliances, and such; rituals designed to ward off contact with superstitious objects; using prayers or chants to prevent bad things from happening; arranging and rearranging objects; and hoarding huge numbers of ordinary objects. Some common obsessions have to do with becoming contaminated, being or becoming too aggressive, having persistent sexual thoughts, being susceptible to injury or disease.

There is also religious scrupulosity, where a person has unwanted, blasphemous thoughts that she must work hard to keep under control, and out of her mind, so she doesn't just blurt them out - which is what makes her so anxious.

The common element in all these obsessions are persistent, unwanted thoughts that cause a person considerable anxiety. Chapman says confronting the worst-case scenario might help you process how you feel about the situation and prepare you for the worst-case scenario if it actually happens.

As an alternative thought, maybe you also consider the best case scenario, where your boss understands your mistake and helps you work through it instead of firing you. Since plenty of people overthink and obsess over things, this isn't a surefire sign that you have anxiety, but if your overthinking is really starting to affect your life, that's when it might be time to ask a doctor if you could be suffering from an anxiety disorder.

Obsessive compulsive disorder OCD is a largely invisible mental illness. To those who have never experienced it in themselves or loved ones, it may seem.

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Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation.

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